Jealousy
Is jealousy a sign of love or insecurity?
Am jealous of his mother.
I think it's a sign of insanity.
Help me. I think am losing it.
Feeling a compulsion to see them again today. Maybe things will be different this time. Maybe last night was a one-off. Maybe it was all just a bad dream.
posted by LouLou @ 9:27 PM
22 Comments:
La'a this is habl, pardon ya3nee ya oukhtee.
Too possessive, are you?
haal,
i guess i am.
All this time I was afraid that SHE will be jealous of ME. Thought she might turn out to be one of those possessive mothers. Or she wants him to marry her niece or something.
But today I met her. She is perfectly nice. And I was jealous.
El sara7a ya Loulou , this doesn't sound like you ,
why are you jealous aslan ? does he ignore you for her sake ? I don't think so
roora,
I don't know why. Am shocked at myself.
It's just that he so clearly loves her. Not just a mother-son kind of love. They are so close.
For 2 hrs I sat with them & I felt like they were a family & I was the outsider.
Just kept wanting to get away from them.
"does he ignore you for her sake ?"
He didn't ignore me. I think he forgot I was there.
Then you were jealous because you were ignored. This is it, I guess. Maybe now that you will worry about trying to be 'better' than his mother and be 'like her' , will worry lest you wont be up to her standards in how he sees her....etc.
I think if u go into this direction you are gone baby!
Loul, watchout and be grounded! You are perfectly fine.
If you felt ignored, just find an excuse, a valid one: they have been away for so long--so it is normal to stick to her.
Relax!
Loulou, don't forget that he doesn't live with them and he must be more compassionate than the normal with her when he sees her, she must be feeling the same way too
I don't like actually men who totally forget about their mothers in the presence of the one they love.
IT is totally DIFFEREENt , frankly the only thing that counts , if he changes his opinions for her sake and she is the one who is ruling down your life with him , as some mothers do , but as long as she doesn''t , and I don;t think he is such a type of man , so don't be upset then
loul, she is his mom, she always was, always will be, DO NOT put your self on opposite sides with her and make him choose who to love more. he won't like it and he won't choose you..
remember a while back you were talking about you going to his clinic everyday and not seeing your friends? that was the problem, your whole lives can not be exclusively about each other, there are other people in both your lives, and you have to give them their space.
of course this is your first time to experience this with him, because he was alone here, but remember when you once didn't go out with him because you felt bad for not spending time with his family?
btw, a man who is close to his mom like friends would respect women and understand them. chill out shewayya
Allah yekoon fee 3onak ya K. yabny! Estelem ya 7elw.
Didn't take any pills. Just went to bed to try & sleep it off. Not sure if I'd describe myself as chilled out or relaxed.
Last night he called me right before I fell asleep. I told him you shouldn't be talking to me on the phone & leaving your mother alone. He said she was sleeping. Then we talked for about 30 min - about her mainly. Managed to dodge all direct questions about how I liked her.
This is so freaky. I mean I don't get jealous of girls who flirt with him. Sometimes he would get a little pissed off because I never get jealous. Wonder what he'd say if I tell him well guess what I do get jealous after all!
Mohamed,
"Allah yekoon fee 3onak ya K. yabny!"
Allah yekoon fi 3onno howa?Tab wana?I'm the one who's suffering!
Hmm , well maybe he wants to check that you wil be in good terms with his family especially if he knows about the jealous trend among the wives and the mothers in law. Maybe he had seen some cases like that before .
roora,
I really don't think he has anything on his mind or that he senses a problem yet.
Ekhzy elshetan and bring your husband's mom a nice gift.
Then spit three times to your left to keep the devil away :)
Mohamed that is funny :)
YOu know ya Loulou, you reminded me by my ex - fiance , the first time we talked together in private , he told me that it is essential for him in his choice of who to marry that she should be in good terms with his mom , But i wasn't upset actually because of his circumstances in thattime ,
but I am wondering what would beof been your reaction if K had told you that ! :)
I think being a little bit jealous is quite healthy ... as long as you don't over do it ... and as long as it isn't "destructive" ..I think it's ok...you'll get over it ya loulou ...you're just not used to him giving someone else "serious attention"..
me , y3ni eh , jealousy is healthy ?
Roora, I mean healthy for the relationship in a way ...I think "moderate jealousy" sort of makes something "tingle" inside and unconciously gives a feeling that the person cares..
ahh yes , for the other partner I agree with you
bass that as long as it doesn't sophisticate
roora,
"but I am wondering what would beof been your reaction if K had told you that ! :)"
If he told me that before I met her I would have agreed.
It would have seemed natural.
I think me & doshar got it. Am the closest person to K here. Am used to that feeling - like the two of us move in our own circle & everyone around us are in other circles.
Yesterday with his mother he was in a different circle with someone else & I was locked out. Someone else was closer to him than me. The whole time they were talking about people I don't know, places I've never seen, memories am not a part of. It made m feel like the part of his life he shares with me is so small.
It's not that I hated her or anything. Just hated feeling so excluded from him. It was like a slap in the face.
About the gift my mother also says we have to buy her a present. We just haven't decided what yet. Tomorrow she's going to come to our house & meet my parents.
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