Hair
Maybe because my hair is so difficult and high maintenance, I can be quite obssesive about hairstyling. In other words, if I don't like your hairstyle don't expect me to be quiet. My fingers will start itching for scissors, haircolor etc....If you're someone I see a lot of then I will hound you. You see, it really, really bothers me. Makes me nervous.
I always used to cut my father's hair. And all my brothers. Everytime they go and get a haircut somewhere else and I don't like, I bug them about it so much they end up giving in and letting me "fix it". In the end they just let me do it for them to save themselves all the hassle.
I couldn't count the number of people whose hair I've "fixed" one way or the other. Basically anyone who'd let me and anyone I could wear down into letting me.
So what's the problem? Well my husband has recently expressed displeasure with the fact that I'm on "haircutting" terms with so many other men. He thinks it's too intimate. I don't see anything intimate about hairstyling. I mean, I go to male hairstylists all the time and I don't feel intimate with them. And what if I was a hairstylist by profession?
He says professionally is different but insists cutting someone's hair on a personal basis IS intimate, that some guys might get the wrong idea etc.... And he made it sound like adultery for heaven's sake.
So let's take a vote. Do you think giving a member of the opposite sex a haircut is or can be intimate?
Labels: Marriage
posted by LouLou @ 10:01 AM
17 Comments:
Ok, my vote goes to...Dunno, it depends. If you are not feeling it as intimate, then it is not. It can be, but only if intended to be so.
I can't see how a haircut could be intimate. I'm looking at it from all directions and still I see no intimacy. I've gone to many men to have my hair cut and there's never been anything like that.
I don't see how a professional hairstylist (male or female) cutting someone's hair would be intimate, but for some strange reason, I think a female giving a guy she knows a haircut is intimate.
Maybe it's the scene because of the movie Untamed Heart (a cheesy movie) where Marisa Tomei cuts Christian Slater's hair, it was a very intimate romantic scene- I've always wanted to do that.
Too bad my husband is going bald! :)
yeah it can be intimte if you're massaging his scalp, in a room all alone, with candles and get down music playing. If it's, "hey bob, you've got some head of hair there, let's lop some off for you and mind the tufts of it flying in your face," then no it's not intimate.
ya3nee, you husband has a point. i'm pretty sure even my boyfriend would take it amiss, and he is really a guidepost for anti-chauvinism.
K's point of view makes sense, and i totally hear what he is trying to say :)
I have to admit Loulou...I see ur hubby's point. Cutting a man's hair in an unprofessional setting can be relatively intimate.
I totally understand where u're coming from too...but men have their ways of looking at things..and I can see what he means.
Loulou , it is intimate yes unless you have a barber shop :P
LouLou,
I think its ok to be on 'haircutting" terms with opposite sex, especially if you did that for a long time and even before knowing K. However the concers of your husband need to be addressed, and may be u need to compromise here. hence his concerns sounds like he is not sure in himself. This is my personal subjective opinion.
Marriage is all about compromises.
I wonder how will you react if he will be doing manicure to his female friends for example? :)
I think Puppy has a point Loulou, how about K manicuring some of his female friends ?
Marriage is not easy my dear and while I understand that for you cutting your male friends' hair does not have any sexual innuendo, it still is intimate.
So that's my vote for all it's worth ...
Sweet as ever Ya Lou. "Hair" Cutting boys/men hair ? Hmm...
Well Almost all of my hair cutters were females in the states alwyas in a puplic barbershop setting. Except for once when I was "professionally" encouraged to try out this college friend that she used to cut hair as a hobby and a source of extra money as well. This one time was in a back room in her grandma's house. I did not know the hairdresser well at all. I'd just met her only few times. The intent really was just to cut my hair. Ok, May be I was open to know her a little better. At all rates It was a bit "heavy" and I felt a little uncomfortable.
Do not get me wrong she was very extreemly nice. Nothing happened. The Haircut was over. I breathed easier after. It could have gotten intimate. If Iwanted to. Or may be it was just my Imagination. I still do not think so.
Here is the verdict. Lou yours is almost always right. This hair cutting idea around your part of the world, intimate or not, NOT a good idea. Cut it out...
sweet as ever ...
PS. thanks for still keeping me on your old blogrole.
Well The idea itself can be intimate and personal I guess it is not usual also.. But I kinda of agree with your hubby on this one.. I do not know why.. But it is just a feeling.. *Too many romantic movies saying so may be**
I don't think it is intimate. My husband might disagree but itimate is such a big word, maybe personal?
it could be intimate if you intend it to be *evil grin*
Hi LouLou,
Just found your blog the other day and I love it - you're so funny and endearing.
Anyhow, I do not think it is intimate. It can be I guess if you're doing it in lingerie or something (which you're obviously not).
I know my bf would disagree though. He finds it relaxing for me to play with his hair and would be uncomfortable with me touching another man's hair at all.
I'd say it depends on who the man is, how well your husband knows him, and what sort of lingerie you choose for the occasion. Seriously, I could see it bothering my husband if it was a) often b) men he might object to. I suppose my sisters' boyfriends would be more than ok.
It can be turned intimate if you want it to be ;)
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