The idea was that the person I decide to leave my child with has to be someone I've known for a while & feel I can trust. She needs to be found now so that by the time I decide to have a baby I know her well enough. That's what I SAID anyway. Didn't actually go out & do anything about it. Just mentioned it to a few friends & acquaintances & then forgot all about it.
Last week one of my husband's best friends who is in the process of leaving UAE for good asks us if we'd like to take on his children's nanny. She's an offer we can't refuse because she's been 'tried' by someone we know & by all reports she's reliable, responsible, loves kids & kids love her. Furthermore I like her too. She's smart & sweet & very pretty in that dainty, feminine way that Filipino women have.
Somehow we found ourselves agreeing that she could come & stay with us while we transfer her visa & finish processing her papers. And she arrived yesterday.
What can I say? Neither one of us can stand not having the house to ourselves anymore. The idea that this is someone who is here to stay for GOOD - not just a few days - like his sister or my Mom. We feel so restricted.
That's the first problem. The second problem is we don't have any work for her to do now. On weekdays the only meal we eat at home is dinner. Usually I cook & he cleans up afterwards. We enjoy it. It's part of our 'quality time'. We do it when we're too tired to go out to eat. If we felt like being served by a third person we'd just go out. So she can't cook. I don't want her to.
We also hardly ever entertain at home. Usually we meet our friends outside.
She could clean. But then again how dirty can two adults get the house? Usually I wash our bathroom everyday. And in the weekend we vaccum & polish the furniture, change the bedsheets etc...together. It takes us less than 2 hrs. The owner of the building sends someone to wash & shine the glass about once a week & clean out the balcony so that's not our responsibility. The kitchen we clean as we use.
Let's face it we don't need a cleaning lady. Or a cook. This woman is here to take care of hypothetical children we haven't even started to plan to conceive yet. Talk about planning ahead! It's too soon. Everyone says we'll regret it if we let her go because decent house help/child care is so hard to find etc....
And we've already made a commitment sort of. Am feeling kind of sorry for her. I mean she hasn't done anything wrong & it can't be nice to get fired for no reason after you think you've found a job. Plus he promised his friend so that's kind of an embarrassment.
But we both want out.