Waiting On each Other
Him: Can't you sit still?
Me: Just getting your coffee. Geez.
Him: Ya sitti ana law 3ayez 7aga ha2oom binafsi. Momkin to3odi ba2a?
(If I want something I'll get it myself. Can you please sit down?)
Me: Tayeb law ana 3ayza?
(What if I want something?)
Him: Ana bardu illy ha2oom. Wana fi deek elsa3a? Dana akhdimik bi3naya. Inti ma tit3ibeesh nafsik khalis.
(I'll get it. Am always at service blah,blah,blah etc.....)
Me: What? Ya3ni am confined to a chair now?
Him: Confined eh bas da inti hatganini(You're driving me crazy). Bossi(Look) I want you to practice sitting still for 15 minutes. If you can't make it I think we have to get help at this point.
Me: You know these repeated references to my supposed mental incapacity are getting a little offensive. This is what I get for waiting on you hand & foot?
Him: Waiting on me leh(why)? Howa ana 3ayel(Am I a child)? La sama7allah mo3awaq (God forbid handicapped)? Ana 3ayez 7ad akalimu.(I want someone to talk to) Akalim el7eetan ya3ni(Should I talk to the walls)?
Me: Tayeb khalas a3sabak.(Ok calm down)
Him: Thank you.
Me: Ana maqsudsh adayqak(Didn't mean to bother you). Just trying to help. It's all because I love you. Wallah.
Him: We7yat abooki?(Really?)
Him: It's not because you get restless & you have to be doing something all the time?
Me: No that has nothing whatsoever to do with it.
Me: Why won't you believe me?
Him: Maybe because you wait on everyone?
Me: Do I really?
Him: Yes. You always take over & play hostess. If you can't find anything else to do.
Me: Does it bother you too much?
Him: Only when I'm trying to talk to you about something I feel is very important & I keep getting interrupted. I can't concentrate.
Mama always told me that you should wait on your husband enough to make him dependant on you but not enough to make him take you for granted. When I asked her why, she said that we women have maternal instincts & like to feel needed.
So is he dependant on me or taking me for granted here? Because it's kind of true that I can't sit around doing nothing. And I am always jumping up to get things for people mainly because I'm hyper & I need a reason to move so I figure I might as well do something useful. I do it with everyone it's true. But when it's just me & him in the house the focus is on him so he gets treated like royalty basically. Not that he appreciates it or anything.