Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Waiting On each Other

Him: Can't you sit still?
Me: Just getting your coffee. Geez.
Him: Ya sitti ana law 3ayez 7aga ha2oom binafsi. Momkin to3odi ba2a?
(If I want something I'll get it myself. Can you please sit down?)
Me: Tayeb law ana 3ayza?
(What if I want something?)
Him: Ana bardu illy ha2oom. Wana fi deek elsa3a? Dana akhdimik bi3naya. Inti ma tit3ibeesh nafsik khalis.
(I'll get it. Am always at service blah,blah,blah etc.....)
Me: What? Ya3ni am confined to a chair now?
Him: Confined eh bas da inti hatganini(You're driving me crazy). Bossi(Look) I want you to practice sitting still for 15 minutes. If you can't make it I think we have to get help at this point.
Me: You know these repeated references to my supposed mental incapacity are getting a little offensive. This is what I get for waiting on you hand & foot?
Him: Waiting on me leh(why)? Howa ana 3ayel(Am I a child)? La sama7allah mo3awaq (God forbid handicapped)? Ana 3ayez 7ad akalimu.(I want someone to talk to) Akalim el7eetan ya3ni(Should I talk to the walls)?
Me: Tayeb khalas a3sabak.(Ok calm down)
Him: Thank you.
Me: Ana maqsudsh adayqak(Didn't mean to bother you). Just trying to help. It's all because I love you. Wallah.
Him: We7yat abooki?(Really?)
Me: Yeah.
Him: It's not because you get restless & you have to be doing something all the time?
Me: No that has nothing whatsoever to do with it.
Him: Whatever.
Me: Why won't you believe me?
Him: Maybe because you wait on everyone?
Me: Do I really?
Him: Yes. You always take over & play hostess. If you can't find anything else to do.
Me: Does it bother you too much?
Him: Only when I'm trying to talk to you about something I feel is very important & I keep getting interrupted. I can't concentrate.
Me: Sorry.

Mama always told me that you should wait on your husband enough to make him dependant on you but not enough to make him take you for granted. When I asked her why, she said that we women have maternal instincts & like to feel needed.

So is he dependant on me or taking me for granted here? Because it's kind of true that I can't sit around doing nothing. And I am always jumping up to get things for people mainly because I'm hyper & I need a reason to move so I figure I might as well do something useful. I do it with everyone it's true. But when it's just me & him in the house the focus is on him so he gets treated like royalty basically. Not that he appreciates it or anything.



Blogger Leilouta said...

Hahaha...I used to do the same. Not anymore,too busy reading blogs :)

4/27/2006 02:10:00 AM  
Blogger Jane said...

It doesn't matter how much work I do around the house--Jd never really notices. Apparently at my house there is a magic fairy who does the laundry, cooks dinner each night, cleans the floors, and keeps the home tidy. We are so fortunate!

4/27/2006 06:29:00 AM  
Blogger Nora said...

I love your ability to be able to write down conversations so beautifully:)

4/27/2006 10:24:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

:) maybe he is just used to do things on his own...fa cool..u enjoy being pampered shwaya..and let him do for the hyper is a nature and sometimes one really can't sit still..bas still there's nothing wrong about that...coz when you are so drained...u will..fa khalas.

4/27/2006 10:52:00 AM  
Blogger Maxxed`ouT said...

After 29 years of marriage , my parents have taken the vow of silence .
It's a clever way for leading a peaceful life . If you don't talk , you can't argue "
احنا بقينا الصم و البكم
as my dad likes to put it !

4/28/2006 06:19:00 AM  
Blogger Wonderer said...

Believe me loulou, it is wonderful that your husband likes to depend on himself.
I did a mistake at the 1st year of my marriage. I was just like you, moving all the time, waiting on him, and I didn't have a problem with it.
The problem came later when I got my son, it is a hell of a work to wait on a whole family while nobody is helping.
Now I am always arguing cause I feel offended when he throws the banana peel on the kitchen table or leaves his used socks on the floor in the middle of the room.

4/28/2006 02:06:00 PM  
Blogger LouLou said...


Oh well that's ok then. So long as you're reading my blog am happy.:)


I guess you're the kind of person who makes hard work look easy.


Thank you. I just have a good memory.


Yeah he does like to do things on his own. It's because he has his own way of doing everything & he doesn't want it done differently. Sometimes I think I get in his way. Like when he says that ever since I moved in he can't find anything anymore.

He's a creature of habit. If I want to get on his nerves all I have to do is sit in his place at the dining table. Or sleep on his side of the bed. It's so funny to see the patient, long-suffering look on his face when something bothers him but he thinks it's too small to mention.:)

Am the opposite. I would do the same thing in a different way everyday. And I hate routine.

Maxxed Out,

I'd die if I had to stop talking. Literally. Die as in deceased, expired etc...


Well you trained your husband to depend on you. Now you have to retrain him.:)

4/29/2006 10:04:00 AM  

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