Thursday, July 19, 2007


So he wants to relocate. Immediately. Says his mother can't be left to cope with this on her own. The other siblings all have commitments.

But you have commitments, too. Me. Am a commitment, aren't I?

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Blogger Puppy said...

That is not a weighted decision. And you both need to sit at talk about it, and then decide.

He is on emotions now, maybe he will change it

Do you want to relocate? are you ready to leave your friends and work?
That will be such a difficult decision. I wish you best of luck and patience. Can you all take unpaid leave?

7/19/2007 10:17:00 PM  
Blogger Jane said...

You said in your earlier post that K was the one expected to shoulder the responsibility in his family. I'm sure you knew this was coming, perhaps not so soon, but eventually. Speaking as the adult child of a disabled parent I can honestly say that there is no heavier obligation than to care for an ill parent. It has nothing to do with his love for you or his committment to you. He doesn't love you less. Put in the same situation as K, what would you do?

Maybe it is as Puppy says, that K is going on emotion right now and not fully considering the implications of relocation at this time.

But truthfully, had I not returned to my parents' home town after my father's illness the guilt I would have felt would have been overwhelming. I left behind my whole life but haven't regretted doing so. I felt I owed it to my parents. I'm willing to bet K feels the same way right now. I was not in a relationship at the time so no one else was (other than my son) was affected by my decision.

This is a turning point in your lives, for certain, and really something you must both consider and discuss in depth. Best wishes.

7/19/2007 10:28:00 PM  

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