So he wants to know why I refer to him as my partner and not my husband.

Hadn't realized I was doing that. Sth I picked up here I guess? I pointed out that a lot of people we know here use partner much more often than husband/wife.

He pointed out that this was usually because they're not married and/or don't believe in marriage. That we - on the other hand - do believe in marriage - are infact married and that I never believed in sex outside marriage or cohabitation etc...

He also said it was disconcerting to find himself relegated to 'partner' after several years of 'husband' and a child.

So I said I was sorry and that I will stop, that it's just a figure of speech that crept up on me from new friends and that I wasn't even aware I was doing it but am now and will do my best to stop.

Husband, husband, husband. Have been practicing infront of the mirror.

Speaking of mirrors, I have found the prettiest mirror for his old room - now our room. It is oval and full-length and has a bright red sparkly frame. It is beautiful and I really enjoy walking past it.

Baby steps. It is not having a whole house of my own to decorate. It is still only one room. But at least sth in it is mine and it makes me feel a little bit more at home. I know it is high-maintenance with a baby in the house but for now it makes me happy.:)