Thursday, September 01, 2005

Disappearing Acts

This post is aimed primarily at blogger Gilgamish who has seen fit to disappear from the blogging scene without a word of explanation. Now I have an extreme allergic reaction to that kind of behavior. Don't like these now-you-see-me now-you-don't games. I get worried.

So Gilgamish please - a comment, an email, a smoke signal, anything to indicate that you're alive & well. Or you could just republish your blog so I can actually see it & then update it. Am not fussy.

And since we're on the subject, here's a list of bloggers who are strictly forbidden to disappear in a similar manner:

1) Haal
2) Kayla
3) Mohamed
4) Doshar
5) Roora
6) AlSharief
7) Zoss
8) Me
9) Around the Clock 24_7

People do you think I need more stress in my life?Do you enjoy giving me sleepless nights?Will it solve any of your problems in life?Do you have a special wish to contribute to a life of needless suffering followed by an untimely death of stress-related causes?Didn't think so. Ok am glad we cleared that up.



Blogger Mohamed said...

Hehe.. don't get too attached to this thing. Rememer, you always have your diary.

I have to admit I love how you wrap your worries in that sweet sense of humor. I'm telling you, you enjoy it :)

El Virgo-Libra combination gamdeen bardu !

9/01/2005 11:41:00 AM  
Blogger haal said...



El Virgo-Libra combination gamdeen bardu! (bass min wara)

9/01/2005 12:51:00 PM  
Blogger Me said...

LOL ! Loulou ya gamila, you are sooooo sweet! Your "real life" friends are lucky to have you :-)

9/01/2005 02:43:00 PM  
Blogger roora said...

That is sweet ya loulou, i wish if i can meet you in the real life one day , you and some of the other bloggers.

i actually add up to those whom i am worried about is Twosret , i don't know where is she , haven't been seeing her lately, hope she is ok

9/01/2005 09:23:00 PM  
Blogger aroundtheclock24_7 said...


That is really sweet ;)
You are a perfect Libra worrying about everything and everyone.
Wish you all the best really for you deserve it ;)

9/02/2005 01:02:00 AM  
Blogger haal said...

now it is you who disappeared? Where are you? Todo bien? I certainly hope so.

9/02/2005 02:39:00 AM  
Blogger LouLou said...

hi haal,

No I haven't disappeared. Just came home too late last night & went to sleep.

9/02/2005 10:13:00 AM  
Blogger Al Sharief said...

Hurray, You made my day Ya loulou!
I'll even write up somethin for my forgotten blog :).

"Sweet Worries" minus the stress will be fine

thank you.

9/02/2005 04:54:00 PM  
Blogger LouLou said...


You're welcome. You were in trouble with me like Gilgamish but I let you off the hook because I saw you at Mo's a few days back.

A sign of life every now & then would be greatly appreciated.

And yes stop being lazy & get to work on that blog!

9/02/2005 09:11:00 PM  
Blogger Gilgamish said...

hey loulou,

I'm really really sorry if i made you worry, i did not think you would worry,or even care, sorry.

i tried to email ya, but somehow i have to enter a microsoft password whenever i use the email link in ur blog, i tried to use my blog user name but did not work.
so i'm just gona explain myself in here.

i have many reasons why i just "disappeared", first of all, i keep on having problems with my password and whenever i try to log in to my blog i have to make a new passwrd and stuff, and in my last two postings, i had about five people replying, talk about software operating systems and things so unrelaed, its either i got hacked or my blog has severe technical problems.

having said that,

the last week i have sincerely changed my attitude towards life, you know how i metioned in one of my posts that i seem to blog whenever i have to complain, now i dont exactly want to keeping on complaining, i'm just regaining my old,strong self, i was so independent when it comes on taking charge of my emotional baggage,i used to control my thoughts rationaly and therefore able to control fear, and other emotional downturns, but all the crazy things that had happened in my life has recked my strenght and made me in a great need to feel re-assured all the time, i became so people dependent, and when some people i used to know in my real life got busy or i distanced myself from them (cause i discovered that they are really negative people), i found i had no one to talk to about what is realy happening inside me, so i came to the blog sphere, i loved your comments in my blog and i loved knowing you,you are no stranger or at least u seemed famaliar to me, i'm a virgo as well :D ....but somehow, again, i became emotionay dependent on what you post in my blog, since you are the only who who contributed.....i can't explain how i changed, but probably, now i realized myself after a whole analysis of what had gone wrong in me, i want to be a stronger person, i want to depend on my inner strenght. but i'm not on the extreme at all, i still think that normal human beings need some re-assurance from time to time but i'm just trying to refine myself at the moment.
i just think its the combination that i dislike this place and its cold-blooded people, by the way i'm not the only arab who thinks that way, we too different but i'm not trying to allienate myself from them, i have experienced Canadian life, esepcialy the windsorite life style and i discovered i just can't stand it anymore, i7na il shar8iyeen damna 7ar, way 7ar for them ...them, their people conncetion is mostly so superficial,too individualistic, selfish,its not even funny,i dont want to be westernized in that aspect, but on helping poor countries, they are very generous, this is according to my life experience and i try to stop myself from generlizing, and if i had to live in this country, i would go somewhere where they have more arabs,even though i can't stand thier baggage as well, its just windsor has the either too religious or the too loose (not that i did not meet nice ppl), i would like decent arabs in some other places, and to be honest i want to meet decent arab guys.
you know the doors, they have this song, "when people are strangers, people look ugly when i'm alone" , i'm not sure if i got it right, but somehow thats how feel at times.
im still friendly and open to whoever, there are things i just can't stand, and i have five more days to start my last year in uni, i can't wait to get my degree and get the hell out of here, i'm just going to be patient and i'm not going to let anybody to make me feel depressed, thankgoodness things at home became calmer. so i have a goal and i'm planning to have good grades, and i'm gona take my last two economic courses the ultimate two killers, so i dont think i can blog or even login to msn that much, i'm just gona get what is good in here that is education and travel somewhere to find this better community that i fit best , no where is perfect and even though i was longing for settling down, i changed my high school six times, 4 countries one after another, different towns and different everything, canada was generous to give me a respected passport and good education and i appreciate and respect that, and i'm thankful that my parents get from iraq, which is a living hell at the moment, canada is an organized country, people drive well.... and its a safe country even though my bike got stolen a month ago but i will always say that i'm an arab iraqi candian .. but i have to find my place, and who knows if i get old and cranky i might come back and settle down.

i hope the best for you and K, you two are very good together, and i wish you will settle down somewhere u feel more comfortable living in, and i wish you the best in life. ;)
im going to always come in here and stop by to say my hello, i really like your blog, i thank you for everything and that is your support, your amazing care for others, you have a great sense of remose,something alot of people lack in a major quantity and quality.

with much love-- your friend, Dina :)

9/03/2005 01:09:00 AM  
Blogger Gilgamish said...

oh i'm really sorry for my long newspaper..

"...You were in trouble with me like Gilgamish ...."

oh no, i'm gona run,

take care :)

9/03/2005 01:11:00 AM  
Blogger haal said...

Amazing how nice words and sincere concern like that of Loulou do touch people heart and open up a beautiful space for sharing and witnessing.

Gilgamish, thanks for the heart-felt sharing.

Loulou, thanks for the sweetness and the space.

9/03/2005 07:06:00 AM  
Blogger LouLou said...


Hamdilla 3ala elsalama yakhti!About time!

Thanks for getting in touch. Was really worried. Am glad everything is fine more or less.

Yes I knew you were feeling a bit lonely & homesick. This is why I was pushing you to blog.

Several thoughts that come to mind as I was reading your comment:

Am not sure you should be taking cultural differences so much to heart. It's ok to deal with different people on different terms. Not everyone you meet is going to be a close bosom friend. That sort of thing is rare & it takes time to build. And even if it did happen all the time it would overwhelm you and you'd have time for nothing else.

But it's a privilege to get the chance to travel & be exposed to different cultures & learn to function anywhere. It opens your mind. Not everyone gets this chance that you have. So don't make it into something negative.

As you know, I went to college in the US & like you I did suffer the initial culture shock. It was my first time to leave my family & my friends. Thinking back I don't think I formed any close friendships like the ones I have with the friends I grew up with. Mainly because like you said everyone was so busy & the pace of life was so much faster.

But I still made friendships - some last until today. You see there are friends & then good friends & then very good friends etc...It's a matter of degree. My advice is learn to care about people even if you have only one thing in common with them, a common interest/hobby, a common sense of humor, a common principle etc...It doesn't have to be all or nothing. It's all human interaction. It's all valuable. And it's all good.

Even here where I grew up I have a lot of friends with whom I share very little personally. Friends I meet only to go clubbing or to go to the beach or to go ice-skating. Friends I meet only at work. Friends only because our parents know each other. And I don't know much about any of them personally. We interact on what you'd call a superficial level. But I don't consider it superficial. We share something, we have good times together, we talk, we laugh together. Am charmed & warmed by this. If it goes deeper great. If not I still like it just fine.

Yes we all need support & reassurance. But like you said if you are going through a period where that's not easy to get try to rely on your inner strength. I cannot overemphasize the importance of writing down what you feel, getting it out of your system. When I was away from my friends I wrote a lot. When I came back & had people to share it with I let them read it.

And yes blogging can be a good way to network & meet people in your area who might have the same issues you have but you have to give it time. You are too impatient 7abibti. You've only written what?5 or 6 posts?

As for emotional dependence, I've also grown emotionally dependent on all of you to some degree. It's not something that scares me. That's the way I am. If someone registers & I share something with them I can't not care if they disappear. I'll want to know that they're ok. Is that bad?Again that's a matter of degree. If I couldn't get through the day without you guys or I was calling out your names in my sleep I'd start worrying that am getting a bit obssessive:)But as it is I think it's nice whenever I meet people I can like/respect/value & care about.

Btw, Dina is a really nice name.

9/03/2005 08:36:00 AM  
Blogger LouLou said...


Thank YOU. Sweet Scorpio historian;)

9/03/2005 09:06:00 AM  
Blogger Mohamed said...

Fee eih ya Loulou, Gilgamesh, Haal.. ana 7a3ayyat khalas! Kiddah banaty awy begad!

9/04/2005 06:02:00 AM  
Blogger LouLou said...

Saba7 Elkhair ya Mohamed,

Can't we girls have a hand-holding sob-session anymore?

9/04/2005 07:52:00 AM  
Blogger Gilgamish said...

Hey loulou,

yes, i grew better in understanding on how ppl interact, to be honest with you, every place , country, town, have their own set of hidden rules or conventions.
There is a huge difference between malaysia (where i used to live) and now canada where i'm living.
Even though, i do feel like going somewhere else, but i gota stay here and finish what i have to finish. well, i would not say homesickness anymore, its more of, i'm sick of living in the small city im living in right now, i've been living here for like five years already. bs yala, amashiha.. :D

"Gilgamish, thanks for the heart-felt sharing."

welcome and thank you very much for listening/reading. :)

9/05/2005 11:52:00 PM  

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